Quarantine processes, which were entered from time to time to control the epidemic, forced us all to face the feeling of “being blocked”, which is perhaps the most intolerant of all people. Even the simplest actions that occur in our daily routine fell into the category of prohibition. We were more intertwined with the people we lived with at home than ever before, and if we were living alone, we were more alone than ever before. Disputes, arguments, intolerance increased. The pandemic has become much more challenging for those who have had difficult relationships and who try to maintain a symbiosis despite disagreement. This is actually as normal as all other difficulties experienced. For all people, the process compelled to create a different, new dynamic. Finding solutions for interpersonal conflicts has become imperative. For this reason, this process is primarily in order to understand and make sense of their own feelings, to find a way to express them in a healthy way, to learn the reactions of the people with whom we share life to different situations, to see it as an opportunity to go the way of reconciliation, to better understand and clarify the issue of personal boundaries. it should be evaluated as an opportunity. In order to avoid conflicts or find solutions, making clear sense of our own feelings, reflecting on it and expressing it with a language of emotion without accusing it will prevent the growth of problems and discussions.
For interpersonal problems:
- Remember that this process is a challenging one and that the feeling of frustration created by the pandemic will increase the problems.
- When you have difficulties at home, when conflicts increase, spend time in separate areas at home and try to stay away from each other for a while with the person you are having problems with.
- Before you react in interpersonal conflicts, stop and think. Take a break for a while, focus on what you feel and think, express after making sense.
- With “I” language instead of “you” language; Try to express your feelings and thoughts as “… your behavior makes me feel ………. I need ……..”
- Listen to the other side. Listen to his feelings and thoughts.
- Create new and different activities in the home, individually and in groups.
We can prevent the quarantine from becoming a disaster when we develop a consensus-based communication language by sharing the emotions created by the epidemic and quarantine process, where we create healthy boundaries for our spouse, our children, and ourselves.
We can summarize the things we need to pay attention to in order to spend this whole process in the healthiest way;
- When talking to your social circle about the subject, avoid scaring each other out with just negative remarks.
- Instead of being indifferent or overly anxious, hopeless, depressed, try to create a realistic perspective.
- Remember that your children will also be anxious during this period. Answer his questions with concise information appropriate for his age. Your overly restrictive behavior towards him will scare him even more. Listen, strengthen your communication with games.
- Switching to a home-working system with social isolation and staying at home for days creates a very favorable environment for disturbing your sleep and eating patterns, don’t do it. Prepare each day like your daily routine and spend the day like that.
- Increasing the time spent with the family at home actually brings many opportunities. Consider this process to strengthen your communication as a family, develop new habits and strengthen your bonds.
- Get a hobby, if you have one, you can get a new one or improve your existing hobby.
- Practice mind-altering exercises about your anxiety. Try to evaluate your thoughts based on anxiety with a rational eye.
- Take advantage of the power of writing. Writing down your feelings and thoughts when you experience intense anxiety will both relax and make it easier for you to look from a different perspective.
- Breathing exercises, yoga, meditation will greatly help you cope with anxiety in this process.
- Remember the importance of social support. Maintain regular communication with your loved ones through methods such as phone, social media channels and video calling.
- Make sure you keep in touch with your relatives who live alone with video calls.
- If you feel that you are unable to cope with your anxiety and you observe a deterioration in functionality, contact an expert by phone or e-mail and decide your methods of getting support.
When we consider the Covid-19 epidemic as a social trauma, post-traumatic stress reactions, anxious thoughts, obsessive behaviors, depressive moods are among the psychological difficulties we expect. Even if we say ‘yes, the epidemic is over, we can return to our old lives’ one day, we do not think that the number of people who will continue to abstain after experiencing adaptation problems for a while will not be at all.
ARTICLE: Expert Psychologist Sena Sivri